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The StoryRecently I posted a FB Live video on a Krav Maga Test (Isreali Fighting) I took. I learned so much from this experience about how I handle life. I really wanted to become great at this for many reasons (one being so I don’t get my ass kicked in an emergency situation). Most of the time I had to drag myself to class. I didn’t want to go. Once I was there, I was glad I went. I realized I was uncomfortable because it wasn’t easy and I was not perfect.

LESSON 1. Don’t focus on perfection. Focus on learning and NEVER GIVE UP. Have growth mindset.

I felt like a novice and I had 2 left feet. I persevered and learned I repitition to create a muscle memory.

LESSON 2. Everything I do is muscle memory. I need to practice these new movements constantly to engrain them. It’s not just the movements in Krav Maga, but in all my actions and thoughts.

As the Krav Maga test approached, I became more nervous about it. The nervous energy drove me to drag my ass to more classes and practice at home which I hadn’t been doing because I wasn’t focused on my “WHY.”

LESSON 3. Stay connected to my “WHY.” The WHY has to be compelling and important enough to keep me going when I don’t want to.

As I practiced for this test, I realized I was treating this like my days at college. Cramming last minute before test time just enough to pass. I began to think that cramming would not help me long term if I needed to save my ass in a real fight.

LESSON 4. Practice and take some action every day to build this up. So I need to keep doing it.

THE BIGGEST LESSON WAS ABOUT THE STORIES.

During the time prior to the test, I was telling myself little stories about taking Krav Maga. Stories like “maybe I don’t have the time” or “maybe I should switch to another self-defense form” also, “they don’t have enough classes for my schedule”. Although I could find a grain of truth in each of them, THEY WERE COMPLETE BS!!

As I dug deeper, I realized I created narratives about everything I did and did NOT do in life (not just this Krav Maga Test). I started noticing those same thought patterns in many things.

FINAL BIG LESSON: HOW I DO ONE THING IN MY LIFE IS HOW I DO ALL THINGS.

Take time to look at your internal dialogues and call BS when needed. Look at something you quit, and the story you created around why you quit. Connect with something you really want to do AND GET AFTER IT!